Celebrating Our Children in 200 Words

Posted by Laxmi Parmeswar

Did you know that in 1913, Rabindranath Tagore was the first non-European to win the Nobel Prize for literature? A painter, playwright, poet, composer, novelist, author, AND international traveler, he was primarily an individual way ahead of his time! His following quote is the one that deeply resonates with me. He said (and I try to remember this daily, particularly in my role as a parent), “Don’t limit a child to your own learning, for he was born in another time.”

Even the most well-intentioned and thoughtful parent tends to forget that (s)he can never really walk in the shoes of his or her child. It was true for us as children; it is still true today for us as parents and will remain true tomorrow. This is a simple fact that needs to be comprehended fully. Each one of us is blessed with our own set of cumulative experiences that make us who we are today – every event, every memory, every perception, every story and every moment. No two individuals are identical; not even identical twins, who share the same genetic make-up.

Many “good parents” fall into the trap of believing that their adult children should learn from their mistakes. But can they really? Can we package “good decisions” and hand them over to our children? Can we protect them from mistakes, errors in judgment, pain, grief, disappointment, anger, regret, and loss? Maybe we should find a way to protect them from us!

4 thoughts on “Celebrating Our Children in 200 Words

  1. jaya

    Very thought provoking blog. Helpful to parents in getting the right perspective in dealing with their children. Liked it a lot.

  2. Viji

    True – as parents we wish to insulate our children from making mistakes that will “ruin” their future. We forget that it is the “mistakes” that will forge their future. This is only possible if we as parents teach our children that: there is no shame in falling down if you are able to get up stronger; there are no shortcuts; hard work will trump luck eventually and being fearless is paramount.
    Thank you for encouraging Positive Outcomes!!!

  3. George

    Note Tagore’s use of the word ‘limit’. Sharing our life experiences with our children does not limit them. It only enhances awareness and provides them the opportunity to go further by carving their ‘own’ path and making their ‘own’ mistakes. In fact, it takes more than just parents –‘it takes the whole village’ to raise a child.


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